Love is Patient... Love is Kind

I’ve been with my sweetheart for almost nine years now – Now married with beautiful baby girl. People often ask me for the secret to success in a monogamous relationship. Generically, I say it’s about knowing and accepting your partner for whom he/she is, while being cautious of whom you are and never fully compromising your morals and integrity. And while that’s true, I also practice 1 Corinthians 13:4; use his parents and my parents as a guide; and occasionally refer to tactics used in “Why Men Love Bitches” which is about owning who you are, in a nutshell. LOL.


Sometimes, people feel like you have to force a relationship to work. Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you’re supposed to be together. You must first be whole in whom you are to find someone that compliments you. Two whole people make one whole, healthy relationship. You can't jam two puzzle pieces together that don't fit, one or both of them will be torn. In order to find a match, you have to know the outline of the piece and picture within it... know yourself inside and out.




Owning who you are takes strength, so does acceptance of someone. It’s not always easy. It’s painful to separate from someone you’re truly devoted to – even traumatic sometimes – regardless of whether or not that person is "right" for you. And although it may not always end up like a fairytale, I promise you it will almost leave you with peace. And sometimes that is what’s necessary to be emotionally healthy. Ultimately you both need to be understanding, whether intimately tied to that person or not.

However, love does not have to always end in tears. Trust, there is someone, if not a number of people, who coincide with your code of ethics and being. And with that person life is a little easier. You can talk for hours about nothings that matter. You can grow with each other and learn from one another, and add more and more puzzle pieces until you’re left with a grand image!

I’m sure you’ve probably heard this before. But it’s true! I promise you! Remember: you have not, because you ask not. Be patient and speak of your desires – of everything, not just love into existence – and you’ll get it.